Monday, June 1, 2009

Stranger Anxiety

Xuan and Wei are 3 months, 4 weeks old now. They are now in the phase of stranger anxiety (SA)...

I brought Xuan to my mum-in-law's place on Fri nite. Wei was already there as she was taken care by my MIL.

Xuan was sleepy and fell asleep soon after we reached the place. Wei just woke up and was happily lying on her back, smiling and playing with my PILs.

Then Xuan woke up to see herself in an unfamiliar place, she looked a bit confused. MIL carried her and tried to coax her smile.

Then it happened.

Xuan started crying. Her cries became wailing. Tears started streaming down her chubby red cheeks, she cried so loud that we were all shell-shocked. But she could not be pacified even after I carried her away. There was a moment she cried with no sound from her mouth. This was it. I could not bear it. I carried her out of my MIL's place, managed to calm her down then...

We tried again. My MIL carried her again. She started wailing again. We were terrified. My MIL handed her to me again and I had a hard time calming her down.

This was the 1st time I experienced this with my babies. I recalled I did not experienced that with YY coz she's a very friendly baby.

I tot Xuan was different and that she was very smart to realise that she was in an unfamiliar place and someone unfamiliar was carrying her.

I was wrong. It turns out that Wei was also suffering from SA...

Two days later, I brought the twins to my mum's place.

Wei was noticeably unhappy to be there. The normally-smiley baby was not smiling. Her lips started to quiver and her eyebrows and eyes started to turn red.

Then it happened. Wei started to cry. It was a very loud, screeching cry, just like what Xuan did at my MIL place. Not the usual 'I wan milk'/ 'I wan to sleep' cry.

I calmed her down immediately when I carried her from my dad's hands.

Wei wei also suffered from SA. Luckily for her, it might be lesser coz I sleep with her during nights. She stopped crying almost immediately when I carried her.

Poor Xuan...she sleeps with my mum at nite and might not be as close to me as Wei.

I wonder when they would grow out of this SA...I hope they do so soon... if not, I may ve to bring them both back to sleep....

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